I had an amazing discussion with my friends Adam and Matt the other night. We talked about many things and in many ways it was what I would call a “true conversation.” In contrast with most verbal interactions, this one included intuitively letting all parties have their say, exhibiting listening and re-formation of ideas previously shared, eye contact and humour while not getting too far off topic (which was: should we save the world!), and attempts at bringing it all together.
There is a book that I heard of once which was about the art of conversation; this is an idea I believe. The better we are at this discipline, the more we can achieve many of the goals of our other disciplines. This is so because being ‘better’ at the art of conversation means more than just correctly getting your ideas across. When a conversation is is really good, there is excitement generated about the topic, new aspects and nuances unfolded around or beneath the topic not to mention the strands of friendship which are strengthened or even created in those moments when we are committed to being present not only to each other but to the ideas which are being thrown through us.